Building Catholic Character in Students: Be Pleasant in your Demeanour and in your Actions

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The Catholic Book of Character and Success: Chapter Notes

Chapter Fifteen: Be Pleasant in your Demeanour and in your Actions.

  • Those who express a pleasant character are welcomed wherever they go.
  • Their character tends to be agreeable and they are cherished friends.
  • In life we have to deal with folk constantly.
  • We have to learn how to associate with them, work and negotiate with them, socialise with them.
  • In cultivating the pleasant aspects of our characters, these relationships will travel a lot more smoothly than others.
  • People will be happy to work and associate themselves with your pleasant character.
  • It is an unfortunate fact of life that many otherwise very good people do not cultivate the virtue of pleasantness and lead miserable lives.
  • This is compounded by the fact that many rascals and manipulative shrews get on in the world because they cultivate a pleasant veneer for their own selfish ends.
  • It is in your own interests and that of others to work on developing a pleasant side, as many frictions are oiled out by this virtue alone, making life much more agreeable to all around you.
  • Try and be pleasant and do good everywhere you go.
  • Do not be a home devil and a social angel: be consistent in your pleasantness.
  • The same applies to those who only are pleasant yet secretly manipulative towards those whom they can extort something from, like a boss, whilst they plot discord and sow unrest in amongst other individuals and groups, being pleasant to some and thoroughly unpleasant to others.
  • Pleasantness means having an interior that is kind and unselfish, sympathetic towards others and genuinely concerned for social well-being.
  • Be careful to be alert for the play-actors who have an outward pleasantness yet are corrupt and sinister at heart. They only want to use you for their evil purposes, either as a source of information, an object of utility or a pawn in their twisted strategic games.
  • Avoid becoming like a weasel-snake hybrid this by thinking kindly of others, be concerned for their welfare and feel for them in their sorrows and successes.
  • You will naturally develop an inward and exterior pleasantness when you adopt this tack, whilst simultaneously freeing you of your own burdens.
  • It is easily seen how an inwardly pleasant character shines on the exterior, so don’t force a pleasantness only for the sake of it.
  • Genuine pleasantness emits light when a person abandons the self for others.
  • Every character has good and bad points. We often tend to focus on the negatives, so concentrate if you can on the positives and show genuine pleasantness to associate with folk who demonstrate these goods.
  • However be in honest in appraising or weighing up the good and bad, as it would be wrong to praise one good element of an otherwise bad character who neglects their duties or who is manipulative and underhand in their dealings.
  • Their a few mind readers out there so make sure your inward pleasantness shines through by being congenial and friendly, with a pleasant smile to encourage the same in others. Being cheerful is important and generally contagious, as is its opposite vice.
  • Make sure your voice reflects your cheery soul too. Lift up your voice and heart together in your dealings with people.
  • The same applies to the language choices you make. Stay clear of sarcasm and useless witticisms, unpleasant jests or foul expressions.
  • Take the strategy of only saying what you would say publicly, discretion of course in sensitive matters. This avoids harshness and criticisms, backbiting and rumour-mongering.
  • Ask yourself honestly, to what degree do I posses the (genuine) elements of a pleasant character and what areas do I need to work on to improve my mien in this regard?

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